March 2017 | Getting Back to Happy

Its Spring after all right? Well, at least for the Southeastern US. We've had beautiful days in the 60's lately and we should be buzzing like bees and glowing and growing like flowers!  It makes me wonder why we can't always be like those bees and flowers, bursting forth with their most radiant selves, reaching for the light and spreading rainbows of colors and happiness to others.

Well, I think it IS possible, when I realize that I am in 100% control of ME.  My decisions in each and every moment determine the quality of life that I live, and how I share that with others.  My aim is to be optimistic and calm, as often as possible.  However, when I can’t control what’s happening, I must challenge myself to GROW, to control the way I respond to what’s happening, to expand my container.  That’s where my power is!  I take a long deep breath and remind myself of the truth: “I choose my response, and that changes everything.” Then I have to use my most rational thinking and make a firm decision that I'm going to let go and move forward. (Its unlikely I'll be sweatin' any of this in a few weeks anyway).  I'm not saying it always happens naturally or automatically.  Sometimes I have to exercise a strong will, rise up from the inside and say, “I don’t care how hard this is.  I don’t care how disappointed I am.  I’m not going to let this get the best of me.  I choose to be different and change the patterns within.” And then I watch and observe, noticing cause and effect. The moment of pain or discomfort is worth the long term change and expansion I experience.

Worry is another great opposition to being like the bees.  It does nothing but steal our joy and keep us incredibly busy doing absolutely nothing worthwhile at all. That is one of the greatest struggles many of us deal with on a daily basis, myself included. The mind is our greatest battlefield.  It’s the place where the strongest conflict resides.  It’s where half of the things we thought were going to happen, never did happen.  It’s where our expectations always get the best of us.  It’s where we fall victim to trying to control the uncontrollable. And if we allow these thoughts and cravings to dwell in our minds, they will succeed in robbing us of peace, happiness, and ultimately our lives.  We will think and worry ourselves into deep heartache and even depression.

Truthfully, there’s so much about life that we can’t control, it makes no sense to waste all our energy on these things and then blatantly neglect everything we CAN control.

We can decide how we spend our time right now, whom we socialize with – whom we share our lives with and loving and appreciating them for exactly who they are.  And most importantly, we can choose how we’re going to respond to life’s surprises and disappointments when they arise, and whether we will see them as curses or opportunities for personal growth.

As we let go of all our worries about everything we can’t control, it frees us up to merrily take the next best step forward in our lives.

Bee Love,